Stop thinking about art works as objects, and start thinking about them as triggers for experiences. (Roy Ascott’s phrase.) That solves a lot of problems: we don’t have to argue whether photographs are art, or whether performances are art, or whether Carl Andre’s bricks or Andrew Serranos’s piss or Little Richard’s ‘Long Tall Sally’ are art, because we say, ‘Art is something that happens, a process, not a quality, and all sorts of things can make it happen.’ … [W]hat makes a work of art ‘good’ for you is not something that is already ‘inside’ it, but something that happens inside you — so the value of the work lies in the degree to which it can help you have the kind of experience that you call art.

Brian Eno (via oncealoyallover)

so.. i graduated from college about a year ago with a degree in psychology. since then i've been living at home, got my yoga license, work at a raw food cafe, and am spending a lot of time exploring my spirituality. my mom wants to see me support myself.. and i find it very frustrating. she doesn't see any progress in this over the past year. i however feel that i have matured a great amount spiritually and emotionally.. and this is important to me. how would u handle the situation?


My first two years after college were spent living at home, doing unpaid internships, and jobseeking. So if it makes you feel better, you’re certainly better off than I was at the time! :P

Like you, I used that time to mature my awareness and emotions. I confronted habits and perspectives that many can spend their whole lives without bothering to stop and see. Yet from the outside, it looked wholly unremarkable to most people. In fact, many simply saw me as treading water—making no “progress.”

When I made the decision to go back to school to pursue medicine, I still faced a wall of negativity from many people in my life. Their concept of me was as a creative individual, not someone given to the hard sciences. And yet were it not for the mental, emotional, and spiritual unfolding I allowed during my time living at home, I would not have been able to handle the premedical program I am now halfway through. 

I went from receiving an academic warning for my grades being too low after my first semester to being on the dean’s list for honors after the second semester. 

Ultimately, the perspective you receive from the outside is shallow and limited. People will only see you in terms of how they see themselves. You cannot expect recognition of things from people who do not have the eyes to see them. 

But at the same time, it would not be healthy to blame or accuse others for being blind. We are all doing and seeing to our utmost. All you can do is be understanding, patient, and lead by example. Which of course isn’t easy when you’re still figuring stuff out. 

All I can say is to keep moving forward with your growth. What is taking form on the subtle levels of mind and emotion will undoubtedly have effects on the unfolding of the physical circumstances in which you live. 

One of the biggest obstacles this process will free you from is the dependance on the approval of family and friends. It is not that you should just throw all thoughts of others to the wind and do your own thing. But now you need to be able to contextualize the feedback you are receiving from others. Don’t just hear what they say but hear the place from which they are speaking. Then there is always something for you to be learning in the process. 

Your mother is being a mother. She wants to see you capable of taking care of yourself in this difficult society. She worries, she wont necessarily see clearly, but her intentions are for you to be happy and independent. This is a challenge all post-grads must find their own way through. Despite all the hoopla about the “college experience,” it makes me sincerely doubt the education system when it forces students to go into debt just to be unable to find a job. 

Not everyone comes out of it sanely. Daily meditation and patience certainly helped me through it. Seeing a therapist can be helpful too, as they tend to help keep things in perspective.

Also, given your studies in psychology and your integration of yoga, perhaps therapy might be a route you would be interested in pursuing professionally? God knows we will need more therapists if this country keeps going in the direction it is currently.

Namaste sis. I feel you. :) Much love. 

Admittedly Milena’s life is sad, nonetheless it is ‘healthy and calm’ as in a sanatorium. Milena is only asking you to finally realize this- she isn’t asking for anything else, especially not for ‘accommodation.’ She’s only asking you to follow your heart and speak with her as one human to another, on equal terms, and not close yourself off to her in a fury. Once you have done that, you will have removed much ‘sadness’ from Milena’s life and she won’t cause you any more ‘sorrow.’

Franz Kafka to Milena Jesenska
Wednesday, August 4th, 1920 (via animus-inviolabilis)

We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.

C. Joybell C. (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

    My art: [graphite on paper]
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    Someone: I love your paintings!!!

'Tell me what happens the first time you see a woman naked.'

'The first time you see a woman naked will not be like you imagined. There will be no love, no trust, no intimacy. You won’t even be in the same room as her.

You won’t get to smile as she undresses you and you undress her. You won’t get to calm her nerves with nerves of your own. You won’t get to kiss her, feeling her lips and the edge of her tongue. You won’t get to brush your fingers over the lace of her bra or count her ribs or feel her heartbeat.

The first time you see a woman naked you will be sitting in front of a computer screen watching someone play at intimacy and perform at sex. She will contort her body to please everyone in the room but her. You will watch this woman who is not a woman, pixelated and filtered and customized. She will come ready-made, like an order at a restaurant. The man on the screen will be bigger than you, rougher than you. He will teach you how to talk to her. He will teach you where to put your hands and he will teach you what you’re supposed to like. He will teach you to take what is yours.

You must unlearn this. You must unlearn this twisted sense of love. You must unlearn the definition of pleasure and intimacy you are being taught. Kill this idea of love, this idea of entitlement, this way of scarring one another.’

(via sloans)

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what i am confronted with lately:
1. creativity
2. act
3. seek

Healing is a choice. It is not an easy one because it takes work to turn around your habits. But keep making the choice and shifts will happen.

Yehuda Berg (via onlinecounsellingcollege)